“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper corresponding to him.’” — Genesis 2:18.
I find this scripture interesting. God was on a roll, he had spent days on end creating and at the end of every day, he said how good it was and likely gave himself a little pat on the back. I certainly would have. But now after all the good, he looked at Adam and said, “Hmm, something’s missing. This isn’t good.” So he grabbed some more dirt and threw together some pets for Adam (I’m paraphrasing here, so settle down), but it just isn’t suitable, so he put Adam to sleep and removed his rib and with it, he formed Eve. Finally, a suitable choice.
Recently God has blessed me with a team of ladies who help me with this ministry. They are some of my dearest friends, biggest fans, and prayer warriors in my life. They also are not afraid to be honest with me when I’m in need, which is rare, ha. This past week on one of those rare occasions, Angela saw the need to get a little honest and all in my bubble.
I had been working hours on end, preparing for our upcoming Revive Retreat in Maui and nothing, and I do mean nothing, was going as planned. I was stressed out over it and asking my ladies for prayer when Angela responded, “We are a team, so there is no need to pull away from us.”
At first, my mind went on the defensive, but then I realized she knows me all too well. I wasn’t pulling away from them at that moment, but if things would’ve kept piling up, I would have.
I struggle a bit with being a lone ranger. Not that I want to be, it’s just been embedded in my brain somewhere along the way when things get crazy or complicated, the safe thing to do is retreat. I convince myself it’s easier done alone. I get hurt, frustrated, disappointed or stressed and I run off to my hole in the sand, all alone. But you know what’s funny about the Lone Ranger? Even he had Tonto. Heck, the castaway had a volleyball named Wilson.
Just like Adam and the Lone Ranger, we were created for community with God and with others. Of all the creations God had made, the one thing not good enough was the fact that Adam was alone.
I’m still working through this in my own life, so please understand I’m not perfect at this, but it is something that I’m continually working through. And I want you to know, God wants to be in community with you. He longs to hear from you like a mother longs to hear from her child. He also longs to see you in community with others. Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). We build one another up, encourage one another, hold one another accountable (thanks, Angela) and carry one another burdens. We were created for community.
I wish I could flip a switch for you and for me, for that matter, to keep us from retreating. I wish I could take away the hurt done to you, the disappointment your experiencing, the frustration staring you in the face, but I cannot. What I can do is be part of your community and encourage the heck out of you in the process. I can point you to community with Jesus and with others.
Friend, you don’t have to do this alone. God has created specific people and placed them in your life so you don’t have to be alone. If you believe the lie that you don’t have anyone, I remind you that you have Jesus and he is enough. I also might challenge you to be intentional to find community in your local church, neighborhood, school or workplace. There is community to be had. You were made for it.
“Or just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” — Romans 12:4-5.
Downs serves as a young adult/college leader at her church with her husband. She writes faith-based columns in southern Missouri newspapers.